In this day and age, one of mankind's biggest concern in one another is the issue of trust, this is especially dominant within teenage society - relationships in particular.
So recently my close childhood friend started dating this guy who is 5 years older than her. It's been about a week and they've had a fight already and today she revealed to me that she doesn't fully trust him. And my question to her is "Why would you date a guy when you don't fully trust him? What's the point in it?".
A relationship is built on the basis of trust. If I were to date a guy, I'd trust him with my life and fortunately for me, I am dating a guy like that - and I love him. Don't get me wrong and all that but it seems like without trust, a relationship just won't work out, maybe as a fling it'd work but not a serious long-term relationship.
Human nature relies on trust. It makes us feel as though we can belong in a certain society whilst feeling safe. However, in recent times, the population of bitches, two faces and backstabbers have had risen quite abnormally, maybe 900 per second - no exaggeration - and within this rising population growth, the majority of them are females. With this increase, trust has been harder to earn and give out. We suspect one another too much and when an individual happens to succumb to one of those priorly mentioned, chaos strikes. I would know this from personal experiences.
Yeah, it may seem cruel to not trust people despite the sincerity ringing through their words as clear as day, but once we give our trust and turn a blind eye, who knows what could happen.
What is the point of a relationship without trust? It's like trying to tango with a cactus, finding a needle in a haystack, finding the right fish when the ocean's full of sludge and toxins.
Ladies and gentlemen, take my word and please don't date someone that you can't fully trust - it's not going to work. It's been approximately 6 weeks for my dear friend and her boyfriend, and yet they've already had quite a serious fight in my opinion.
The Fight
During their date 4 days ago, she was walking through the streets with him in school uniform. He forced her to walk in front of him rather than with him with the excuse of "people will think you're my sister". And so, she listened to him and not long after, two of his females friends which he apparently hadn't seen in a while, approached him to greet him, also stating "Is that your girlfriend? You could do so much better than that" and as shocking as it may seem, he agreed with them. Now quite obviously, that cut her pretty deep.
The next day, she called him to meet up with him and he replied to her with a "You'd better have a good reason for me to meet you". Need I say more about how she felt?
My Interpretation
So basically, he thought she wasn't good enough for him and that she wasn't a good enough reason for him to meet her. Why is she still with him? She doesn't completely trust him and yet not even a week into their relationship he's already treated her this way. Makes me wonder how much worse it'll get because right now, I am seriously doubting that it will get any better. Yes, he may have his good moments but when it comes down to it, he does have his bad sides and they outweigh the good from my perspective.
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